Trust that your life is unfolding as it should.
You are exactly where you are meant to be.
We are constantly being offered lessons to learn from. Bits of wisdom to help move us forward and on to the next level. There are those that resist this truth. There are others that hope for a change. And others still that will avoid change entirely. But, there are also those that are at peace during times of change.
I have adopted the belief that my life is a “pick your own adventure book.” Just a series of decisions. Some choices carry heavier consequences and outcomes than others, but ultimately when I look inside and listen to my true self and heed its counsel I move towards the place I am meant to be. I am a firm believer we all possess the answers to our questions. We are all able to provide ourselves with the answers we need to move forward. The more important question that arises, is whether or not we go against the grain and not accept our inner truth. When we choose to not listen to our intuition.
This creates DISCORD.
No matter what choice you make, make sure you (and I mean the true, selfish, authentic, out for no one else but you) are the one making the decision. Make your choice. Own it. Stand by it. Be fierce. Unwavering. Believe in it. Be unashamed. After all, you can always make another choice.
If you are uncertain or unsure, take solace in knowing that you are the only person that can make the right choice for you. I do my best to educate myself and gain the necessary knowledge to move me forward and improve my decision-making skills. We should always try to evolve and develop the relationship we have with our inner voice and cultivate the confidence to listen and act on its guidance. Instead of allowing others to make decisions for us, become engaged, be a player in your life. Get off the sidelines. Get in the game.
I think it is important for anyone wanting to make a change to resist being a “Life passenger.”
“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions
drown out your own inner voice.”
– STEVE JOBS –
Far too often we decide to digress or shrink in the face of decision-making opportunities. All decisions are opportunities and should be looked on as such. An opportunity to grow, to learn, to fail, and learn some more. Seize these opportunities to take control of decisions that directly affect your life.
For whatever reason, there are those of us that choose to stand aside. Waiting to see how things will play out. Keeping our mouths shut. Perhaps it is because we don’t want to look like we don’t know what’s going on. Maybe we are unsure or don’t want to “rock the boat” and be seen as disagreeable. Regardless of the reason, please do your best to listen to your intuition.
Listen carefully and know that you have the information you need to make the best decision you can at the time.
Developing confidence in our true inner self is not easy. However, the only way to develop it is to exercise our decision-making abilities. When we avoid making a decision, we are only deflecting ownership of our lives. By relinquishing the power of choice, we exonerate ourselves from the direction our lives are heading. We choose to not have a say in how our story will be written. Do we not trust in ourselves. Do we think that we cannot instigate change? There have been times I have found myself thinking these thoughts. The only way forward for me was to make a choice. A small decision here, another decision there. It all moves us forward to the next decision. Like Oprah Winfrey said, “What’s make next play?”
It is important to remember, we all have an inner truth. An intrinsic knowing that guide us. The gut feeling that we let us know what we need and what we don’t. The internal compass that guides us when a blanket of uncertainty covers the light that guides our way. Sometimes we listen. Sometimes we don’t. Not choosing is a choice. You chose to stop engaging in your life.
We are all authors of our own stories. The chapters are sometimes filled with action and adventure. There is heartache and moments of desperation. Other moments are filled with enlightenment (my personal fave) and personal growth. No matter how our story is unfolding, we have the power become an active author in our storyline.
There are times in which I forget to listen to my intuition and more often than not, I regret it. I believe it all stems from self-doubt. What will others think? Time and time again it is the internal dialogue that surfaces. Remember, this voice does not serve us. I am working on my negative internal dialogue and listening more to my positive internal voice.
It’s not easy to be unapologetic about our decisions, especially ones that may be perceived as selfish. Our decisions can put us in a position of vulnerability. Ripe for judgment. Let’s face it, there are people out there that take pleasure in judging others’ decisions as a way to mask their vulnerability and inability to make decisions. I refer to these folks as “Life’s Armchair Quarterbacks.” They seem to revel in pointing out what they deem as the mistakes others have made. Content to sit on the sidelines, showing up only to tell you the decisions you are making are wrong. How we will fail. Why we should not even bother. Their opinions have the ability to cast a long-reaching shadow over our dreams. Remember, the dark cloud exists in them, not you.
In these moments of self-doubt, remind yourself they are projecting their fears and doubts and that you have the inner strength to remain true to your path. We all have the wherewithal to sail through the roughest seas, while others remain rudderless.
So, I ask you, do you trust your intuition? If you do, why? If you don’t, why not? Intuition is the marriage of knowledge, experience, and gut feeling. Listen and act accordingly.
“Nobody can give you wiser advice
– CICERO –
As I close out my blog post I would like to continue with my tradition of signing off with a song.
Sort of Revolution
Are you in your late 30's or 40's and thinking back on how exactly you wound up in the career you are in today? Chances are if you are like me, you took the safe path. You were told to get a job with benefits, a retirement plan and not rock the boat. Work your way up. Move up the corporate ladder. Just work hard and when you are done, retire.
Yup, you played it safe and now, you are questioning what you are doing and where you are going?
Let me ask you, do you remember when you were excited about life's possibilities? When you believed you could do anything. Do you ever wonder what happened? When did you lose touch with your passion? Have you given up on your hopes and dreams? Or, have they simply gone astray.
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